People who may not identify as male or female
People who feel that the sex/gender they were assigned at birth does not match or sit easily with their sense of self may use other ways to describe themselves. Some young people don’t identify as ‘male’ or ‘female’ or may not feel happy using either ‘male’ or ‘female’ facilities. Providing ‘gender neutral’ facilities – irrespective of how they identify can help create a more inclusive environment for everyone. Equally some young people may not be keen to change / undress in front of others.
Focus on the common language you use every day:
- with individuals – ask for their name, pronoun, or title
- with groups – avoid using collective gender specific terms for example ‘boys’, ‘ladies’. Start with gender neutral language for example "Hello, everyone," or "Hey, team." You'll want to avoid "Hey, guys", or similar phrases, since "guys" is typically masculine
- use the name they wish to be known as now even if this is different to their birth name – this is known as deadnaming and be very hurtful and offensive to the individual
- listen, don’t label
- be led by the person – ask if you need to
- mistakes? Don’t over-worry; apologise and move on
- challenge inappropriate language
- be an ally and help foster equality
There are various descriptions for people’s identify or genders taken from The A-Z Of Gender: A Few Definitions. What does it mean? – Brook & List of LGBTQ+ terms (stonewall.org.uk)
Cis, cis man or cis woman
Describes a person whose gender identity is the same as the gender they were assigned at birth.
Trans / ‘Gender Reassignment’?
Describes anyone whose gender is not the same as the gender they were given when they were born, “a person has the protected characteristic of gender reassignment if the person is proposing to undergo, is undergoing or has undergone a process (or part of a process) for the purpose of reassigning the person’s sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex.” (Equality Act 2010, Section 7)
Non-binary
Someone whose gender doesn’t fit into the gender binary. It is a term that is an identity, and it is also an umbrella term for various gender identities such as genderqueer, bigender, gender fluid and pangender.
Gender dysphoria
Used to describe when a person experiences discomfort or distress because there is a mismatch between their sex assigned at birth and their gender identity. This is also the clinical diagnosis for someone who doesn’t feel comfortable with the sex they were assigned at birth.
Gender fluid
This describes someone whose gender is not fixed; their gender may change slowly or quickly over time and can switch between different gender identities and expressions. Each gender fluid person’s experience of their gender is unique to them.
Gender neutral
Lots of things are ‘gendered’, which means they are associated with masculinity or femininity. If something is gender neutral, then it means it is not associated with a gender, which means it has no limitations to use that are based on the gender of the person using it.
Intersex
This describes a person whose biology doesn’t easily fit into the ‘male’ or ‘female’ sexes.
Pangender
‘Pan’ means ‘all’ and describes someone whose gender is made up of several different genders. A pangender person may consider themselves a member of all genders.
How can we help:
- involve the person – what are their wishes, how do they identify, what do they want to be called?
- make some announcements if they would find that supportive etc.
- create a supportive environment where the person feels emotionally / physically safe; assign a named support person (if they feel that is helpful and needed)
Make the necessary changes:
- use the person’s new name, pronouns, and title
- update records / documentation / ID / email
- provide access to appropriate toilets / changing rooms
- enable access to medical appointments