Dorset couple share how opening their home changed lives

“She became part of the family”:

For more than 20 years, Dave and Wendy Huckle have offered a home, friendship and a sense of belonging to people with care and support needs.

Through our Shared Lives scheme, they have supported seven people to build independence, friendships and strong connections within their local community.

The scheme matches adults aged 16 and over with approved carers who share their home, family life and everyday experiences. It can be long-term, a short break or day support.

One of the people they supported was Audrey, who lived with them for 18 years and became a well-known and much-loved member of the local community.

For Dave and Wendy, helping people feel included has always been at the heart of what they do.

“We wanted Audrey to feel part of everything we did, if she wanted to be,” they said.

“Before long, she was included in family celebrations, social events and weddings. She wasn’t just someone we supported, she was part of our family.”

Audrey enjoyed attending a day centre, knitting, helping in the kitchen and settling down to television quizzes. Like any family member, she would share stories around the table about her day.

Dave and Wendy believe this sense of belonging is what makes Shared Lives so special.

“It’s not just about feeding and sheltering someone. It’s nurturing their life and helping them thrive to the best of their abilities. Seeing the results of this care is so rewarding,” they said.

The couple say the key is giving people time, listening and seeing the person rather than any label they may have been given. They have found that trust grows when people feel accepted, valued and included.

Their message to anyone considering becoming a Shared Lives carer is simple: don’t underestimate the difference you can make.

“Opening your home can feel like a big step at first, but the rewards are incredible.” they said. “Seeing someone grow in confidence, enjoy life and feel that they truly belong makes it all worthwhile.”

Cllr Steve Robinson, Dorset Council’s Cabinet Member for Adult Social Care and Health, said:

"Dave and Wendy’s story shows what Shared Lives is all about. It helps people build confidence, make friendships and become part of their community, while giving carers the chance to make a real difference.

"If you have space in your life to support someone by becoming a Shared Life carer, we would love to hear from you.

“You do not need previous experience in care. Shared Lives carers come from all walks of life and receive training and ongoing support. What matters most is having room in your life to help someone feel safe, valued and secure.”

Could you welcome someone into your life?

To find out about Shared Lives support, or becoming a Shared Lives carer, visit our Shared Lives pages. You can also contact the Dorset Shared Lives team at [email protected] or call 01305 221393.