Lots of people are now working from home full-time or looking after their children due to school closures meaning we are all spending more time behind closed doors. But have your thought about how will this impact your relationships?
Whether you are working from home with others, looking after (entertaining and home schooling!) children, or working alone, it is not yet known how long these measures may last.
Our relationships will be hugely important for getting us through this unprecedented time but self-isolation, social distancing and concerns about issues like finances may also place them under added pressure.
Aidan Jones, Chief Executive, Relate
It’s important we focus on what matters now. Equally, we all know how frustrating it sometimes is living with others – even those we care about the most! Here are some tips on how to ensure your relationships survive self-isolation!
It is ok if you are finding it challenging being in close confined proximity to those you live with. But remember, relationships are never built on the expectation you will be spending every minute of every day together! So, it’s ok to take a break! Read again about taking ‘me time’ for the 5 ways to wellbeing. We are all finding our new ‘normal’ right now.
Keep communicating; if you're frustrated or stressed, share how you feel…but do it in the right way! Use ‘I’ statements – ‘I feel’ is a lot different to ‘When you did…’. Make sure we don’t blame each other – we all have different stresses and triggers, it’s how we manage our stresses and overcome them that supports our relationships. Check out the advice Relate has on maintaining relationships through the coronavirus.
You might be thinking that none of that is relatable. Perhaps you’re in a new relationship. Perhaps you’re worried about how that can continue if you aren’t able to see each other. Again, Relate has some advice for maintaining new relationships in this time.
Experiencing difficulties in a relationship
We must remember that this is a very unusual situation we are in at the moment and people may struggle with communicating how they are feeling. Living in much a much closer (or a much more distant) way, may create extra tensions. It can be damaging to your wellbeing if you are in an unhealthy relationship. If you feel it's affecting your wellbeing and you feel at risk of harming yourself, seek support from the NHS locally.
Connectionis a 24/7 mental health helpline for Dorset. Call 0300 123 5440 to speak to someone.
If you're living in a difficult situation and feel concerned for your safety at this time, you're not alone. Please know that support is out there for you, reach out.
Visit You Trust who support victims and survivors of domestic violence in Dorset or call a number near you:
- Dorset: 0800 032 5204
- Somerset: 0800 694 9999
- Hampshire: 0800 916 9878
The National Domestic Abuse helpline helpline for women and children is a free, confidential service.
Call 0808 2000 247. It's available 24 hours a day.
Domestic violence affects men too. If you feel you are being abused physically, emotionally, financially or any other way, look at the visit ManKind Initiative. You can also call them on 01823 334 244 on weekdays between 10am and 4pm.
In any circumstances, if you are in immediate danger, call 999.
You can also seek help from the Samaritans. Call 116 123 at any time to speak to someone.